• Twitter
  • Facebook
Free Initial Consultation 815-726-9200
Mevorah Law Offices LLC

6 Convenient Locations

  Twitter Facebook  

Free Initial Consultation

Se habla español
Se habla español

The “Parenting Marriage” – Is It a Viable Alternative to Divorce?

Posted on in Family Law

Will County divorce lawyersThere used to be just two options for married couples: stay together or divorce. Now there are conscious uncouplers, bird-nesters, and even those who turn their traditional marriage into a “parenting marriage.” This last non-traditional family unit – the parenting marriage – is gaining a lot of traction lately, particularly among those that are at a deadlock in their marriage but still want to see their children every day. Could this model realistically work for your family as an alternative to divorce? The following information may help you decide.

What is the Parenting Marriage?

In many ways, the parenting marriage is a lot like a traditional marriage. The couple is (usually) still legally married, and they continue to live in the same house. However, their marriage is no longer an intimate relationship. Instead, it is a platonic one. They do not share the same bed, there is no intimacy, and most have separate finances and accounts. The sole function of their marriage is to raise their children, together, without the stress of trying to mend a relationship that is no longer working.

Who Engages in a Parenting Marriage?

Most couples who enter into a parenting marriage have tried to repair their marriage, typically through counseling, but have been largely unsuccessful. They feel like they are in a deadlock and know they are headed for divorce, but they stall out when they start to think about seeing their kids only on weekends, or having to split holidays and birthdays. These parents love their children and do not want to miss out on a minute of their lives. This can be said for most parents, of course, but parenting marriage couples are unique in the fact that they get along “well enough” that they can continue living together.  

Couples who have a lot of conflict, are prone to jealousy or petty and/or passive aggressiveness, and those who have differing parenting values or beliefs may not be a good match for a parenting marriage. However, even those that do get along and are emotionally mature have aspects to consider before engaging in the parenting marriage. For example, what would happen if one of you loses their job? This could cause a great deal of stress, despite the lack of emotional connection in your marriage. After all, you do still live together and the other parent would have to compensate for the loss in income.

Contact Our Will County Family Law Attorneys

Some parenting couples do eventually divorce. Others choose a different family model, like the bird-nesting divorce. In this family unit, the parents rotate in and out of the house and the children always live in the family home. This reduces the amount of time parents spend with one another, but it is still an allows for family meals and a great deal of flexibility. Some parents have also reported that this type of divorce is less stressful on their children.

Whatever family model end up choosing, it is important that you know where to turn when and if you are ever ready to officially file for divorce. Mevorah Law Offices LLC, we know that each family is unique, with its own specific needs and factors to consider. Our Will County family law attorneys respect these differences by giving you and your family the personalized, attentive representation that you deserve. Ask how we can help your family move into the next phase. Call 815-726-9200 and schedule a free consultation today.




Recent Blog Posts



  • AVVO Rating 10 Top Attorney Personal Injury
  • Elite Lawyers
  • National Association of Distinguished Counsel
  • Top 40 Under 40
  • 2015 Top 40 Lawyers Under 40
  • Super Lawyers

Let us start helping you with a FREE initial consultation.

NOTE: Fields with a * indicate a required field.