From a legal standpoint, divorce is a lot like a business deal. Marital assets are dissolved and/or equitably split between the invested parties. Even the allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time agreements have an oddly unemotional method for determining the best interests of a child. Underneath it all, though, there are emotions. There is pain and separation. Loss and grief. Those who generally adjust the best after divorce are those that take the time to acknowledge this emotional aspect in healthy ways. Yet, even the most well-adjusted individuals can experience post-divorce depression. The following can help you learn how to handle it.
Seek Support and Guidance
Too often, divorcees feel ashamed of their perceived “failure.” As a result, they may shy away from asking for help. Rest assured that divorce is not a failure in life, or in marriage. It simply means that your journey together came to an end. So seek help when and where you need it – be it a grief counselor, the pastor at your church, a friend who has gone through divorce, your family, or a divorce support group.
Many of these people are standing by, just waiting for an opportunity to show their love and support, so let them. Ask for your mom to pick up the kids from school if you are stuck at work or just need an afternoon to cry it out. Go to the movies with your best friend. Give yourself permission to lean on the people who love you most, and never be afraid to ask for professional help.
Self-Care and Redefining Yourself
Whether your marriage was tumultuous and traumatizing, cold and bitter, or a fire that just faded out, there is something to be said about rediscovering yourself once the divorce is over. Certainly, you never stopped being “you.” However, many of your hopes, dreams, and desires were likely hinged upon those of your spouse. After all, marriage is often about compromise. So, rather than continue down the same path, why not reinvent yourself? Try those things you have always wanted to do but never did. Spend time loving and caring for yourself. Dream. Pursue your passions. Travel the world or go skydiving. Whatever you do, do not post-divorce depression convince you that life is over. Instead, let your life begin anew.
Contact Our Joliet Divorce Lawyers
If you have not yet filed for divorce and are nervous about the steps forward, contact Mevorah Law Offices LLC today. Dedicated to your best interests and compassionate in our approach, our Joliet family law attorneys will guide you through the entire process. We help alleviate the stress commonly experienced during divorce by handling all the legal details for you. We advocate for you and pursue the most favorable settlement possible. Schedule your consultation by calling 815-726-9200 today.